Dementia is a complex and often misunderstood condition that can significantly impact a loved one’s daily life. It encompasses a range of symptoms associated with cognitive decline, including memory loss, confusion, and changes in behavior.
As adult children or caregivers, recognizing the signs of dementia in a parent and knowing how to respond can be challenging and emotional. If you suspect that your mom has dementia, here is what to do:
- Monitor their symptoms
- Talk to them about your concerns
- Visit their healthcare provider
- Prepare for the journey ahead
Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Senior care communities with memory care programs can support loved ones with dementia to live fulfilling lives.
Recognizing & Monitoring the Symptoms of Dementia
Dementia is not a normal part of aging. Normal age-related memory changes can include misplacing car keys occasionally, forgetting the name of someone you met, or forgetting recent events. However, distinguishing the differences between normal age-related memory changes and problems with memory in dementia is crucial for timely diagnosis and intervention.
Here are some common symptoms to monitor if you think your parent has dementia:
- Memory loss: Frequently forgetting old memories and the names of family and friends.
- Difficulty performing familiar tasks: Struggling with everyday activities like cooking or managing finances.
- Language problems: Trouble finding the right words for familiar objects or following conversations.
- Disorientation: Getting lost in familiar places or not knowing the date or time.
- Poor judgment: Making decisions that are out of character or potentially harmful.
- Changes in mood and behavior: Experiencing sudden mood swings, anxiety, or depression.
- Withdrawal from social activities: Losing interest in hobbies and social interactions.
Having a Conversation with Your Mom
It’s normal to feel resistant or overwhelmed when discussing a possible dementia diagnosis with your mom. However, having an open and honest conversation is crucial for her well-being. When talking to your mom about your concerns, approach the topic with sensitivity and empathy and acknowledge the fears or concerns she may have.
Be patient and listen to her perspective while gently expressing your worries and observations. Remember to validate her feelings and reassure her that you are there to support her every step of the way. The conversation may be difficult, but it can also bring you closer and help your mom feel supported and understood. Don’t hesitate to talk to your mom about your concerns and seek professional help together if needed.
Visit Your Mom’s Healthcare Provider
Consulting your mom’s healthcare provider is a critical step in addressing dementia. Here’s how to prepare for the appointment:
- Document symptoms: Keep a detailed record of the signs and symptoms you’ve observed and how they’ve changed over time.
- Gather medical history: Compile a comprehensive medical history, including any existing health conditions, medications, and family history of cognitive issues.
- Prepare questions: Write down any questions or concerns you or your mom have about dementia and its potential impact on them.
During the appointment, their doctor may perform tests to assess cognitive function and determine if dementia is present. Early diagnosis can lead to more effective management and a better quality of life.
Prepare for the Journey Ahead
A dementia diagnosis can bring up many emotions for a parent and adult children, such as fear, overwhelm, uncertainty, and worry. Here is how to prepare yourself and your mom for the journey ahead.
Caring for a Parent with Dementia
Caring for a parent with dementia can be overwhelming, but there are practical tips to help you cope depending on the stage of dementia:
- Educate yourself: Learn as much as you can about dementia, its progression, and how to manage day-to-day challenges.
- Include your mom: Involve your mom in decision-making.
- Establish routines: Consistent routines can provide comfort and reduce confusion for your mom.
- Simplify tasks: Break down complex tasks into smaller, manageable steps to make them easier for your mom to complete.
- Communicate clearly: Use simple language, be patient, and give your mom time to respond.
- Create a safe environment: Make necessary adjustments at home for safety.
- Seek support: Don’t hesitate to contact friends, family, or professional caregivers for help.
Additionally, take care of your own emotional and physical well-being. You can practice self-care by taking regular breaks, pursuing hobbies, and seeking counseling or support groups if needed.
Legal & Financial Considerations
Dementia can present significant legal and financial challenges. Consider the following earlier better than later:
- Power of attorney: Establish a power of attorney to manage your mom’s affairs.
- Health Care proxy: Designate a healthcare proxy to make medical decisions on her behalf.
- Review financial plans: Assess her financial situation, including assets, debts, and insurance policies. Consider consulting a financial advisor for assistance.
Plan for Long-Term Care
Plan early to prevent future stress so your mom receives the appropriate care. Explore options for long-term care, including in-home care, assisted living, and memory care.
Senior communities that offer memory care programs are designed to provide a safe and supportive environment for individuals with dementia, offering personalized care and activities to enhance their quality of life.
Personalized Memory Care
Facing a dementia diagnosis in a loved one is undoubtedly challenging but by recognizing the signs, understanding care, and considering professional help, you can navigate this journey with confidence and compassion.
Memory care programs can be a valuable resource for adult children with a parent who has dementia, providing specialized care and creating a nurturing environment for your mom. Book a tour with Inspired Living at Hidden Lakes to see firsthand how we can support a parent with dementia.
